The Negative Magnets (contd.)

Right off the bat, if you’re having a good day and aren’t so much into human psychology, please skip this post. And please know that I’m happy if you skipped it because you’re having a good day.

While sitting in front of my computer at work and checking some logs yesterday, I found a message from a close bud of mine, with feedback for my last post. It suddenly made me realise how I completely ignored that fact that I had to emphasise on the positive side of life too! (well, not coming up in this post).

The Negative Magnets

We’ve all, at some point in our life or the other, wondered why we humans always focus on the negatives of the world around us. Sometimes we even start thinking that ignorance was bliss indeed, and we shouldn’t have ended the state of ignorance! “Everywhere you turn, there’s negative. Everyone is behaving crappy of late. Everyone around us is being rude to us. Everyone around us is changing in the way we don’t want them to. Everywhere school kids are starting to try alcohol and drugs. Everywhere there’s people who are mean to us. Everyone is trying to get our money. Everyone is trying to overpower us. Everyone is being an as****e by not letting us work or sleep in peace. Everywhere there’s intrusion, robbery, rape, murder. Every politician we see is a liar and is corrupt. I’m living in a practical hell surrounded by devils everywhere! WHY, God, WHY? And why me!”

The Friendzone Issue

So I visit pages on the internet and I see this word very often. Every ‘cool’ guy out there seems to consider friendzone something like a high-ionising-radiation-prone zone and never really wants to step into it.

After a thought about it for some days, I couldn’t understand what the hype is all about - I mean why wouldn’t a guy want to be in a girl’s friendzone after all? And do they even realise how difficult it is to be in someone’s friendzone permanently - that too, a girl’s?

Impressions

They say that the first impression lasts long, and it is very difficult to change it. And I’ve always wondered, how difficult?

Well, so there’s this girl called… let’s call her Kitten, at work. We have quite a few mutual friends. I bumped into her in the cafeteria in the F3 building, and I said “hi!” to her when I was so close to her that she could probably hear me breathe. I’m known as this crazy guy here and believe me, if you come to my floor and ask for me as “the crazy guy”, anybody could point you to me. I do all crazy stuff like cracking jokes when everyone is damn serious about something, like playing badminton on the floor (yes, at work), and such things. Why, we crack so many jokes that our neighbours, (a couple of depression-maniacs—no offence) raised it to the director of Human Resources (and they almost got jacked). So something like this coming from me isn’t a big deal.

The sister I didn't grow up with

Today is rakshabandhan in India. This is the day sisters tie rakhi around their brothers’ wrists and the brothers vow to be for the sister throughout their life, no matter what. While many of us are fortunate to have a sister born from their parents, some of us aren’t. Those of us who fall under the latter category, though, find sisters, some of us get so lucky that we don’t really see a difference.

That what's called Fate

Call it an extension to my post about destiny, but I really got this great thought to explain to the believers who asked me ‘Oh right, so you can say what you’re gonna do in your life and how you can die, because you know your destiny?’

Well, guys here it is. I’m sorry if this sounds a bit weird, but this is how I liked to put it. I’m an IT guy and currently a student of Software Engineering. So please bear with me for my li’l bit computer lingo.

The blackboard that helps you learn and unlearn

Ever wondered when was the last time we were completely ourselves? What, does the answer seem too obvious?

I used to think I was always myself no matter what. I thought I had my own thoughts, ideas and opinions. Nobody could influence my character, nobody could influence what I thought, how I behaved, how I walked, how I spoke, how I wrote, how I expressed, how I reacted. Isn’t it true that we’re the sculptors of our character, our mannerisms, our thoughts and ideas?

Believe in destiny? You do if you believe in science.

One of my friends said to me the night before I went for an important exam back in 2009 - “Since you’re a guy who believes in destiny, know that whatever will happen will happen according to your destiny.”

Right. And that’s exactly the reason why I was worried that night. I knew what was destined to happen.

Be a spectator and you’ll never see a fair game.

Well, what is this about? There’s a train service in Chennai that’s called the Mass Rapid Transit System – the train runs on an elevated track and does two things: gives you a spectacular view of the city from a safe distance and saves a lot of your time.

I personally remember travelling from Fort to Triplicane in less than 30 minutes while the ride in a bus would’ve taken me over an hour at midday. The story in the newspaper that I’m talking about here was about how sad the state of MRTS has become.

The Bad Heroes and the Good Villains

Mahatma Gandhi, Krishna, Jesus, Anna, Hussain, Da Vinci, Thomas Edison, Nicola Tesla, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, you name a famous personality who was considered the hero in his time, and you find some disturbing facts about him now; and there’s always an argument where a side states that they were bad and shouldn’t be considered great.